Happy Belated Independence Day!
I have Freedom on my mind…
Freedom, Bucket Lists, and Responsibility.
This week at one of my monthly women’s circles, the conversational prompt brought to the table was this: “What is on your Bucket List?” (We use conversational prompts to help us dive below the surface in our time together.)
I had a big “aha” about freedom, responsibility, and bucket lists.
I’m sure I’ve had it before, but I’m betting this happens for you, too—some lessons keep coming back until I can really own them.
When it was my turn to answer the bucket list question, I came face to face with this fact: I avoid getting specific about “bucket list” dreams, because naming them means claiming them.
Here’s what I mean:
As long as I leave my dreams very generalized—like “I want to travel,” I can keep them in that “fuzzy” dream status. Once I’ve gotten specific, the next step is to take responsibility for bringing them about. This doesn’t mean that I have to do it all myself, or that I need to know “how” it will come about. But it does mean claiming the dream, owning responsibility for making it my own. I have to decide where I want to go and when I want to do it.
Here’s why I avoid it:
I have a great deal of privilege in my life, including a lot of freedom. If I really want to do something, I can probably figure out a way to make it come about, in one way or another, with the Universe’s help.
“So?” you say, “What’s the big deal? Go for it!”
The moment I name it and claim it, fear arises. All the “reasons” it won’t work come to mind. The next steps arise to be done, and I shrink from them. From decisions, tasks, and foundational “grunt work.”
In a nutshell, I am reminded me that freedom ultimately means taking 100% responsibility for your life.
You, too, can have your bucket list dreams, once you are willing to name them and claim them. Bucket lists are beautiful expressions of freedom, rooted in responsibility. Join me this week: Name and claim one dream (small is fine!) and take at least the first step toward it!