What are your marching orders?
Do you know?
Are you clearly after doing a particular thing right now? Or do you feel like you chase from one thing to another—lots of activity, but little clear results? Mind you, whether they are clear or good, or even accurate, you ARE sending out marching orders!
I had an insight this week. It’s about the inner dynamics of our feminine and masculine selves. (All of us have that energetic combination, whatever our gender). We are yin and the yang; being and doing.
Contrary to our cultural teachings, it’s the feminine that sits at the center of heart-felt decisions. She surrenders to guidance, and expresses her desire. The masculine listens for marching orders from her, and carries them out. “He” loves to delight the inner “She.”
Let’s take Adam and Eve. Eve wanted that apple. It was her heart’s desire, and she let Adam know it would make her truly happy. Knowing that, Adam would have found a way to get that apple even if the serpent had been guarding it with all its fangs!
I finally perceived the conversation going on between my inner “She” and “He:”
“I CAN’T STAND THIS!” she wails.
“What should I do?” he asks, panic rising. “How can I help?”
“JUST DO SOMETHING! ANYTHING!” she howls.
“Okay, okay,” he mutters, digging into the nearest activity with zeal.
“NOT THAT, YOU FOOL!”
“No? That isn’t helping?” He moves to the next activity. “How about this?”
“NO! NOT THAT!” she hollers, “NOTHING IS HELPING!”
“Well—what should I do, then?” He’s spinning in circles, madly active.
“ARGH! WAAAA!” She drops her face in her hands and cries.
Should I keep trying things? Or should I just go on a walk and leave her alone, he wonders.
By now he is agitated, frustrated, and disheartened. He can’t seem to get anything right! Poor guy…
Inside each of us, the inner “She” is the one giving out marching orders. The inner “He” is doing everything in his power to make “Her” happy. If she doesn’t clearly tell him what will make her happy, or she persists in her unhappiness despite his carrying out her desires, he becomes frustrated and eventually withdraws.
I’ve sent my inner She off on a retreat, with the express instructions to listen for Divine Guidance, and to come back with clear marching orders.
Coach’s Challenge: Take a close look inside and ascertain what kind of marching orders your inner “She” is giving out. Are they clear and in alignment with her true desire? Remember that not making a decision is making a default decision, and the marching orders she inevitably sends out will reflect her clarity or lack of it. Do you need to send your inner She on retreat as well? I’d love to know—leave a comment with your reaction.
