I had an amazing experience at my 4-day “Ignite Your Business” Retreat with my mentor and fellow mastermind members. We had hot seats at the end of our last day. I was tired and emotionally wrung out—I avoided my turn until near the end. I wasn’t up for being told where I was tripping over myself, and I said so. Instead, I told everyone the truth: I so highly value the feeling of “being on the inside” with them—of belonging.
What the group proceeded to give me was nothing less than an outpouring of love. I sat, with tears pouring down my face, as each person told me not just what they love about me, but the vision they see as possible for me. It was like being present at my own funeral (in a good way!) only harder, because I was charged with really receiving these messages of love and belief.
We each have at least one wound that remains from our childhoods, even after growing up. Mine is feeling like I don’t belong. (It’s a part of my Life Lesson, as provided by my right thumbprint!)
In my book The Curse of the Neverland, book one of the Piper Pan and Her Merry Band series, 11-year-old Piper Pizzinni has just arrived at Fitch’s Last Ditch Foster Home, the latest in a string of foster homes since her parents disappeared (captured by pirate Captain Li’l Jack and flown off in a dragon-borne pirate ship when she was 5 years old.) The seven other foster girls at Fitch’s are a motley group of misfits who call themselves “The Lifers.” Only someone who has felt bereft of love would yearn, as Piper does, for their friendship.
Of course the book involves an adventure, a journey through which friendship is built, along with the kind of belief in each other that transforms what each previously believed was a personal impossibility. By the end of the book, the girls have gone from being “The Lifers” to being Piper’s Merry Band.
Clearly, my message has been built from my own life journey. I believe we each need a Merry Band – a place to belong, where we can grow into who we truly are. We need “believing eyes” that can hold the vision for us when we doubt ourselves. Do you have a Merry Band?
I’d love for you to receive this kind of insightful view about who you are in your depths, the vision of who you are capable of being, as I did from my mastermind. If you’ve received a Life Purpose Hand Analysis from me, you’ve had this experience. It’s a real privilege for me to see you through your hands—it’s like seeing you through God’s eyes.
Coach’s Challenge: In case you can’t gather with your Merry Band and have them tell you, here’s another way of receiving the highest vision of who and what you are capable of being: Make a list of the three to five people you most admire, and what you admire about them. Maybe they are an amazing leader, extremely classy, or smart, witty, articulate. Maybe they make everyone around them feel like a million bucks, maybe the have a knack for doing, for persistence, for success. Take the time to really asses what you admire. Now, look at the ways in which you own these qualities as well. And if you aren’t showing them regularly, know you are capable of it, and set your mind to deliberately embody these qualities. These special people that you admire are a mirror, a reflection of you. And please, leave a comment with any aha’s, any insights!
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