You are a Magnet

You are a magnet.


You have drawn the life you are leading to you, just as a magnet draws iron. This knowledge is both frustrating and incredibly freeing.

Following up on last week’s post about “Keeping Your Peace”—I called out the Student Path pattern of the School of Peace: being a magnet for chaos. This led me to think more—when we want to change a deeply entrenched pattern, how do we do it? (It took me back to my years as a behavior change coach…)

Here’s how: All at once and a little at a time:

Whenever you commit to breaking old negative patterns and starting fresh with a positive one, you have to do it both all at once, and a little at a time. All at once means determining to make a clean sweep, to set your intent to follow 100% new rules starting now. High expectations are good.

A little at a time is the way we actually learn. You will trip and fall trying to follow the new rules. “A little at a time” means gently picking yourself back up, with a pat on the back or a tender hug, and setting off again—learning as you go. Generous encouragement and forgiveness is required.


Keep your intent set on 100% change, and your tolerance set at toddler level.


Being willing to accept responsibility for your self is huge. It’s a real breakthrough, to be willing to recognize that like it or not, you are a magnet. The life you are leading is what you are attracting. Recognizing your own power is enormous: both important and life changing.

Here is a School of Peace affirmation:


“Starting now, I am peace itself. I attract people and situations that resonate with my peaceful self—including those who want to learn from me. I get to set my own boundaries, I get to say “no” to chaos. With each breath I breathe in more peace, and release chaos. My life today is a reflection of yesterday’s thoughts, feelings, and actions. In choosing my peaceful thoughts, feeling, and actions today, I have a chance to create something new—more peace tomorrow.”

Coach’s Challenge: Write your own affirmation for the change you want to make in your life. Write it with high expectations. Implement it with generous encouragement and forgiveness. The manner of gentle implementation can actually compliment the high expectations. And leave me a comment below—tell me about what helps you make change in your life!

Lindy MacLaine of is a Life Purpose Coach whose messages empower and inspire those in the second bloom of life to reclaim their dreams, reignite their passions and rekindle their joy.

She is the author of the fantasy adventure series Piper Pan and Her Merry Band, for those ages 9-109 who loved the Neverland and who long for adventures that matter.